Category Archives: inspiration

The Blogs

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Afternoon readers,

 

Yes, I am late today. You see, I have been busy with my life an all. I am going to fill you in on my fourth weigh-in tomorrow. As it is my last day of my training regime today, I think it is more appropriate that I give you a month update tomorrow rather than today. So, today, I want to point you in the direction of a few of the other blogs I am reading at the moment. These are blogs which help to give me inspiration. Just thought I would spread some love and who knows, maybe one day, someone might spread the love for me.

 

The Actor’s Diet: The Life of a Hollywood Actress. Meal by Meal.

http://theactorsdiet.wordpress.com/

 

Loftier Musings.

http://zaknafein81.wordpress.com/

 

TemptingLimes: Right Now, It’s All You have to Change Your Life Around.

http://temptinglimes.wordpress.com/

 

Much love,

Bing xxx

The Cure

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Morning readers,

I have been thinking a little bit about self-esteem and the way in which it can affect an individual. I have lately been experiencing a few ill feelings towards a few aspects of my life and thinking about the way in which I have been dealing with them. Before starting my exercise regime, I would have most likely let my emotions get the better of me and retreat in to my own private abyss, not talk to anyone or leave the house. Despite what is going on in my life of late, I have actually managed to not do this and I believe that my new-found health kick has to take the credit. After much thought, I have decided to identify the major problems that cause low self-esteem and how to better attack these issues to ensure that you do not become a recluse.

 

1. Self Hate: 

Definition – anger and frustrated about the person you are and you cannot forgive yourself for even making small mistakes.

Cure – do not resign to becoming your own worst critic. No one is perfect so forgive yourself for making mistakes. Making mistakes means positive growth. Challenge yourself to prove the negative comments wrong.

2. Perfectionism:

Definition – living with a constant sense that you may fail because no matter how impressive the achievement, you always feel that you could have done much better.

Cure – set realistic expectations of yourself. Failing something you do does NOT mean you are a failure as a person. Try to focus on the big picture rather than nit-pick at the small details.

3. Poor body image:

Definition – can affect everything from how you behave in relationships to how you project yourself at work so as far as symbiotic relationships, this is a big issue.

Cure – avoid comparisons to others as it leads to heightened insecurities about yourself. Look after yourself with a healthy diet and exercise regime as it releases positive hormones throughout the body. Make an effort and take pride in your appearance.

4. Feeling worthless:

Definition – doubting ones ability to the point that a deep-rooted sense of worthlessness appears which makes you believe that you are not as valuable as other people.

Cure – accept that you have your own special talent that may be different to others and be proud of that talent. Do not take people’s opinion of you as the gospel as this will make you feel like they are better than you. Treat others the way that you want to be treated.

5. Oversensitivity:

Definition – angered by criticism or you literally feel demolished by any comment that’s directed at you,

Cure – listen carefully to the criticism and decide for yourself if it is true or not. If the criticism is unfair, make sure you say that you disagree. If there is truth in the comment, learn from it rather than over-analysing it. Move on and don’t dwell on it.

6. Fear and anxiety:

Definition – the fear and a belief that you are powerless to change anything in your world.

Cure – distinguish the genuine fears and the unfounded ones by challenging your anxieties with facts. Face your fears.

7. Anger:

Definition –  you start to believe your own thoughts and feelings aren’t important to others which can causw repressed hurt and anger to build up, so something seemingly small can trigger outbursts of fury.

Cure – learn how to remain calm and do not let emotions boil under the surface until you explode. Remove yourself from the situation for a little while to breath and calm down. Do not over do it as this will only make your feel bitter when struggling to cope.

8. People pleasing:

Definition – feeling you have to please others so that they like, love and respect you and as a result you end up feeling aggrieved and used.

Cure – learn to say no as your self-worth is not determined by others approval. Be selfish on occasions and at least consider your feelings before others. Set limits on what you will do for others and this will alleviate any future resentment.

 

The sad thing about this list is that for a long time in my life, I actually did experience all of these symptoms of poor self-esteem. The truth of it is that when all of these symptoms are combined altogether within oneself, it not only hurts yourself but ends up extending to the relationships in your life. I have done some really stupid things over the years that have hurt a lot of people and all of which was because I struggled from low self-esteem.I hope some of you will find this post interesting and maybe some will find it helpful in turning their lives around.

 

Much love,

Bing xxx

The Positive Influences

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Good morning readers,

Today I want to focus a little on positive reinforcements in ones lives as I believe this is incredibly important when you are on a journey of transformation and in particular, weight-loss. However, I do not want to focus on myself specifically but rather give the microphone to you guys and tell me what or who are the positive influences on your life at the moment and how they are helping you through your life. So, let me know?

A very intelligent lady pointed me to this blog yesterday and thought I would pass on the love: http://killsessionmusings.wordpress.com/2011/11/08/removing-negative-influences-in-your-life/. So the aim of responding to my blog post today is to give me three positive influences in your life. Let me begin:

1. My lovely man who is constantly telling me that I am looking great and that all my hard work is really paying off. Not to say he didn’t love me before I started losing weight but I think he is proud of me for converting to a disciplined and healthy lifestyle.

2. My modelling. Some may say that this might cause one to self-doubt and over analyse oneself in to an unhealthy state of mind (eating-disorder) however, it gives one a lot of self-confidence being all prettied up, snapped and being shown a gorgeous finished product.

3. The tape-measure. The measure gives you a better indicator of how well you are actually doing when it come to a weight-loss journey. Scales show an increase due to muscle weight however the tape-measure informs you on how you are actually doing in terms of toning.

Ok readers, it is your turn. What are the three positive influences in your life? Let me know and pass this blog post to someone you think would benefit from expressing their three positive reinforcements. I really want to know what YOU think!

Much love,

Bing xxx

The Eleventh Hour

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Readers, I am not going to be conceited today and talk about myself but I thought given the significance of the day, I would like to tap into my other love in life…history. Being Remembrance Day, I think it is important for the Y-Generation (and ALL generations following the Great War) to appreciate the individuals that partook and endured the horrors of war in the hope that we would be here. More than three generations on, we are here and we are free just as they had intended us to be when they boarded the military ships bound for the European and Middle Eastern front lines.

We can talk about sacrifice. Sacrificing our love of certain foods or alcohol to stay healthy or to lose weight. However, I doubt many of us can discuss true sacrifice. Fudging our birth certificates to say that we are eighteen years old when in fact we are only fourteen just so we can feel like a man and fight the good fight for King, country and the rights to be free. Parting with loved ones who we may never see again to fight for the greater good of the nation…its future depending upon us to rise to the challenge and against all odds, triumph. Sacrificing your youth and quite possibly more in the hope that future generations could live a better life. That is true sacrifice.

In Flanders Fields

John McCrae

In Flanders Fields the poppies blow

Between the crosses, row on row,

That mark our place: and in the sky

The larks, still bravely singing, fly

Scarce heard amid the guns below.

We are the Dead. Short days ago

We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow,

Loved, and were loved, and now we lie

In Flanders Fields.

Take up our quarrel with the foe:

To you from failing hands we throw

The torch; be yours to hold it high.

If ye break faith with us who die

WE SHALL NOT SLEEP,

THOUGH POPPIES GROW

IN FLANDERS FIELDS.

We will remember them.

Much love,

Bing xxx

The Little Black Goal

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I bought a dress last week which has become my inspiration outfit. Have you seen The Biggest Loser when they bring in an outfit that they hope they will be able to fit in to by the end of their time at the camp? Well, this is very much the same idea.

When I went and tried it on in the boutique, I had a little trouble getting the zipper up. The dress was a size eight (size 4 in US, 10 in UK and 38 in European sizing) which was quite small and I had a feeling it was actually closer to a size six as it was an Asian boutique where I was buying it from. It was a bit of a struggle but when it finally came up, it fitted quite fine. My back looked a little pinched in it though but knew that if I lost the weight from my back, it would sit fine. My tummy was still noticeably pot-belly round in it though and there was a bit of arm fat peeking out from the sides. So I wasn’t exactly 100 per cent happy with what I saw. I felt like a sleeping bag trying to force its way awkwardly back in to its case.

So, I actually didn’t really want to buy it as I thought I looked terrible in it. There was one thing that made me go ‘WOW’ when I put it on…MY BOOBS LOOKED AMAZING! I wouldn’t even need Hollywood Tape to keep them up, they just sat in the dress perfectly. They were so amazing that I thought that they would be the main feature of the dress and would take all the attention away from my tuck-shop chicken wing arms, tradie pot-belly and skin pinched back. I might actually pull it off as long as the puppies behave.

Then I again thought to myself, “Bing, you do not have to fit in to this now! It can be your Little Black Goal Dress”. So, like The Biggest Loser contestants, this can be the dress that I want to fit in to at the end of my weight-loss journey. This will be my New Years Eve dress and my goal is to lose enough weight to look totally svelt and sexy in. Interesting notion. With that notion, I did buy the dress (it was only $50 so, a bargain really).

So now, I have this dress sitting in my wardrobe collecting dust. Except for every week or so when I try it on to see how I am going with it. But I have tried it on in the last couple of days and I must say that I am pretty impressed with myself considering how I looked when I tried it on at the boutique (see above). Hopefully by New Years I will be looking super hot in it but I have to remember that I have Christmas to contend with and to not go silly with the over-eating or drinking. I need a lot of luck and hard work.

Much love,

Bing xxx

The Good: When Weight Loss Goes Right

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The last couple of posts have been a little depressing so for my final post before my Monday weigh-in, I thought I would share with you some celebrity weight loss successes that have NOT resulted in a skeletal frame. These women are inspirational and should be for all young people.

Yes, I know that celebrities have the luxury of personal trainers and hours upon hours per day dedicated to training however, what I mainly want to focus on is the fact that these celebrities should be the ones people should look upon and admire. NOT the skinny and anorexic celebrities that all the attention seems to be placed.

Jennifer Hudson

Queen Latifah

Kelly Osborne

It would seem to me that these women have lost weight not to bend to the Hollywood norm, although they probably have been told to lose some weight to benefit their careers, but for health reasons as well. If you look at their ‘before’ shot, they are quite over-weight and it looks to me that they have lost weight for their health and well-being WITHOUT going overboard by succumbing to stick thin weight loss. Are you hearing me PrettyThin.com?

I applaud these ladies and it is almost as if they are calling to me saying, “Just get to a healthy weight which you will be happy with but make sure that you stay a sexy woman with all the things that men adore. Do not become an emaciated boy with a vagina”. Do not fear my curvaceous celebrity friends, I won’t!

Have a great weekend my lovely readers and I will catch up with you on Monday with my weigh-in results as well as my exercise plan…if I managed to lose some weight or alter my measurements.

Much love

Bing xxx